Nursing vs formula. Private school vs public school. Sack lunch vs cafeteria. Sports vs arts. Of all the decisions moms have to make, the most polarizing is probably whether or not to work outside the home; to be a SAHM (stay at home mom) or a Career Woman. This has been hotly debated for decades, but I am about to give you the definitive answer as to which is best.

Neither. Both. It depends. That’s my answer. You’re welcome. The choice to either go back to work after having a baby or not is a personal one. It could come down to money or personality or tradition but in this day and age, there’s no one right answer. What’s best for your family is the right answer.

But that’s not all I have to say about this. There’s more.

Stop being so judge-y!

SAHM vs Career Woman is not a morality issue. There’s no right decision that covers everyone. If you have decided to stay home, great. But don’t look down on moms who went back to work. And “working” moms, don’t look down on those who didn’t. SAHMs aren’t dumb or lazy. Career moms aren’t ignoring their kids. Moms are all just trying to do their best.

Encourage each other!

So now that you moms have stopped judging each other, let’s take it further.

“We love because He first loved us. Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.” (1 John 4:19-20)

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up …” (1 Thes 5:11a)

“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. As each has excised a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace.” (1 Peter 4:8-10)

Moms, encourage each other. You all have gifts and talents that can benefit each other. So build each other up. Help each other out. Encourage each other. Extend grace. The decision to love each other is much greater than the decision of whether to be a Career Woman or a SAHM. After all, we are #bettertogether.